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Most children fall into five basic personality types that stem from inborn physical characteristics: the sensitive child, the self-absorbed child, the defiant child, the inattentive child, and the active/aggressive child. Stanley Greenspan, M.D., is the first to show parents how to match their parenting to the challenges of their particular child. He identifies and vividly describes these five universal temperaments and then, with great empathy, shows parents how each of these children actually experiences the world and how to use daily childrearing to enhance an individual child’s strengths and talents.A profoundly optimistic book, The Challenging Child reassures parents that they do not have simply to ”live with” or adjust to their child’s temperament, but that by creating new parenting patterns based on the child’s characteristics, they can help the child overcome behavior problems and develop his or her emotional and intellectual capacities to the fullest. Parents will learn how to spot personality differences in the earliest years, and also how to build relationships that nourish growth from the start.”As parents,” writes Dr. Greenspan, ”we are not the cause, but we can be the solution.”
Hardcover: 336 pages
Publisher: Da Capo Press (January 20, 1995)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0201626470
ISBN-13: 978-0201626476
Product Dimensions: 1.2 x 6.5 x 9.8 inches
Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces
Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars See all reviews (28 customer reviews)
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I took this book out of the library because of my high-energy, aggressive 2 year old, and am now here to buy it because I need to have it by my bed until I memorize it!! Only half kidding...it has been enormously helpful in thinking about his behavior. But the surprise is, all of my other kids are in here too, as well as me and my husband! Anyone with a strong personality was probably a difficult child, at least in some ways (ask your mom!!), and this book gives you insight into how you got the way you are, and how your personality might intersect with your child's to cause trouble understanding each other.My favorite thing about this book is the way Greenspan includes a section on "what it feels like" to be each of the types of challenging children, so you can understand that your child often really, truly, doesn't see the world at all the way you do. They are not just trying to drive you nuts, they genuinely sometimes see black when you see white! If you can get behind their eyes you can support them so much better when things get hairy.I would agree with the other reviewers that there isn't much in this book about special needs per se-- if you're looking for a book on ADD or another issue of that sort you may not find what you need here in terms of specific information. But for garden-variety behavior issues, plain old intense kids, and parent-child communication troubles, this book is fantastic.
Parents are often at a loss as to how a child "acts like this when it's not how he was raised". This book describes the unique, in-born personality and behavior traits which our children have, making some of them more challenging to deal with. With more understanding of their make-up and some specific strategies to try as parents and teachers, adults can feel more in control of the situation and children's unique needs can be met more readily.
This title was recommended during a teacher orientation and it is easy to see why. This book should be required reading for anyone who is mentoring, teaching or parenting a special needs child.Feel the calm as you learn new techniques. Many of which are totally out of line as to what you may have been taught was normal or proper. Insightful, thoughtful and necessary.Emotional intellegence has never before been so clearly addressed.
I went into a bookstore in search of a different book but purchased this one instead after browsing through the chapter I identified as my 2 year old daughter, a highly sensitive child. I agreed with everything the author described in regard to this character, and I even found myself in the book. As a teacher and parent, I believe this is the best book I have seen in recognizing and nurturing the five different "challenging" children. Even my husband, who is always a bit skeptical with parenting books, was amazed at how on-target this one is. I highly recommend this book for anyone not only wishing to identify with a "challenging" child but also desiring to assist that child as he/she deals with the daily struggles that face that particular temperment.
The thing I like most about this book is that it allows busy parents and caregivers to focus specifically on the types and behaviors that they see in their child, without having to read the entire book. We've read lots of books and this was the first one that described our son so clearly and specifically. Thank you Dr. Greenspan!
This book is not just for parents with VERY challenging children, but for ANY parent with ANY child. Who among us hasn't come up against a behavior or problem with our child, and felt as if we had tried everything we know of, with no result? It doesn't have to be a huge pattern of difficult behaviors to drive you crazy; it can just be that One Thing that you fight over, every day... I love that Dr. Greenspan emphasizes the point of view of the child, to help frustrated parents understand that the kid isn't being deliberately, willfully difficult. I have two friends with VERY stubborn, almost 2 year olds, and I wish they would just crack the chapter on The Stubborn Child. They seem so frustrated, and sometimes I see them making the exact parenting missteps that Dr. Greenspan outlines. I must admit that it is hard to read the book and see yourself there, in the mistakes you've made and the things you've thought and tried. But, as I tell my son, kids don't come with an instruction booklet attached, and parents make mistakes sometimes, too. This book is full of kind and sound advice and really helped our family. I wish the title was somewhat different, because at first blush it seems as though it was written only for the parents of that Kid Throwing the Huge Tantrum in the middle of the restaurant; you know, THE CHALLENGING CHILD. But, it is a great book for all of us, who want to understand our kids more and become better, more confident parents, and raise happy and loving children. I'd give it as a shower gift but I'm sure it would offend!!
This book was recommended to me by my daughter's (she's 3 now) neurological developmental pediatrician at Children's Hospital. I only regret that I just now read it. The highly sensitive child chapter outlines my daughter's life from birth through today, as well as many of the frustrating feelings I've had as a loving, yet confused parent. The book helps show how to best parent each of the five different types of children. The book states that you (the parent) are not the cause, but you can help be part of the solution via your parenting style. I started dog-earing the pages as I read the book so I could go back to the parts most on spot for my daughter. By the end of the chapter I realized that I had dog-eared almost every page. A must have for the parent of a challenging child (mine being the highly sensitive child).
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